The holidays are approaching and every year, some people live in dread of the season, largely because they are doing something different than what they actually want to do. Except last year. During quarantine, a number of people seized the opportunity to spend the holidays the way that they … [Read more...]

Why is it that almost all of the survivors of sexual abuse blame themselves? The answer is two fold: 1) They are encouraged to think that. Survivors are still blamed for what they were wearing, or drinking, or their choice of venue, or the company they keep. 2) Its easier to blame one’s self. The … [Read more...]

Recently, I was talking to the owner of a local shop who despaired over how rude and impatient some customers have been lately. “What people don’t understand that we had to go from 0 to 100 overnight. We are all understaffed.” Hiring and training takes time. The pandemic has also highlighted how … [Read more...]

I recently read a novel* in which a character makes a Faustian bargain. What he wants, more than anything, more than his life, is to feel like enough. And so, he trades his soul for a year of "enough-ness". And suddenly, everyone he meets wants to be around him and wants to give him their … [Read more...]