Lori Kandels, LMFT, MBA

Therapy, EMDR, Brainspotting and EFT


In-person and Online

Free yourself

Feeling stuck? Whether you are stuck in a loop of self-doubt, guilt, worry or sadness, there is a way out. You can create new habits.

Our minds and bodies get used to certain patterns of thought and action and repetition makes those patterns stronger. Somatic therapies like EMDR, Brainspotting and EFT (Tapping), coupled with talk therapy, allow you to access and shift the familiar habits of thought and emotion that no longer serve you. By resolving the dilemmas of the past, you create a new future.

Change is good. Really.

"I just wanted to let you know you made a huge difference for me. You were absolutely the best therapist I experienced, and you helped me to shed this feeling of being "bad" that I harbored for the longest time."

Trauma

A part of you may be stuck in a terrible moment from the past. Here is what your heart needs to know: It’s over. You survived. You are stronger than you think. Let’s get you into the present moment where you are safe and capable and whole.

Anxiety/Panic Attacks

Anxiety doesn’t exist in the present. Anxiety wants you to live in the regrets of the past and the imagined disasters of the future. If you have been experiencing anxiety or panic attacks for a while, your nervous system may actually be habituated to the hormones of stress. Have you noticed that every time you start to relax, anxiety looks for something to worry about? There is good news. You can retrain your nervous system and break this habit.

Workplace Stress and Bullying

Most of our life is spent at work and that is a significant source of stress. Are you unhappy with what you do? Having trouble finding work/life balance? Dealing with challenging work relationships? I have personal experience managing teams of up to 250 people so I understand your challenges. Find internal and external balance by assessing what you really want from work and how to get it.

Workplace bullying is unfortunately common with 27% of people experiencing bullying at some point in their career. Typically, the most competent and conscientious are bullied by managers, colleagues, or even supervisees, who lack effective stress management and communication skills. Learn how to gain confidence effectively advocate for yourself.

Money

Is there a certain income level that you just can’t seem to break through? Have you noticed that when you approach that number, you start to mysteriously incur debt, or you spend frivolously, or you leave your job? You may have hit your financial set point. Our relationship with money reflects narratives about worthiness, safety, ease, and family loyalty. Once you identify and challenge those ideas, you can raise your set point.

Relationships

My approach to couples work is unique in that I have you talk to me rather than each other. I talk to each of you one at a time, with your partner in listening mode. It helps each person to relax and hear the other from a different perspective. Listening and being listened to are essential to intimacy.

The most difficult thing about a conflicted or distant relationship is that you may not be happy with how you are showing up in the relationship. Break away from negative patterns and reconnect with your best self. This will help both you and your partner.

Health Concerns

How we feel affects out bodies and physical conditions affect how we feel. Whether you are dealing with an acute or chronic health condition, or preparing for a medical procedure, therapy can help. Reducing stress improves medical outcomes. And besides, you deserve the support.

Reducing stress is also important if you are in a caretaker role since the stress of caretaking can impact your health.

Specialties

Goal-Oriented and Personalized

Shift your focus from surviving to creating. Change happens when we embrace the possibilities rather than the limits. We will focus on the specific changes that you want to see in your life and we will keep checking in to make sure that we are on track to meet your goals. You are unique and so is your path forward. Your therapy will be designed for your particular goals.

Neuroscience and Mindfulness

If you are caught in a negative story, I offer practices that engage the mind and body such as mindfulness, breath work, EMDR and EFT (Tapping). When we are stressed, we don’t think as clearly and can fall into habits of negative thoughts and emotions. Those habits leave a neurological imprint in the body. Changing your mind is only half of the solution. You can retrain your nervous system as well and mind/body practices speed that process along.

Intermittent and As Needed

Many people are concerned that change is only possible after years of weekly therapy. It doesn’t have to be that way. “Power therapies” like EMDR and EFT accelerate change by directly addressing the habits of thought and emotion that get in your way. My priority is to help you create the change you want at the pace and cadence that works for you.

My Approach

About Lori Kandels, LMFT, MBA

In my role as a therapist, I have worked with a wide variety of people confronting a large variety of challenges. I taught graduate psychology at John F. Kennedy University and New College and trained new therapists. I also helped organizations develop strategic plans and metrics for measuring program success.

Mid-career, I decided to broaden my experience. I earned a business degree and moved into nonprofit leadership roles. I had the privilege to design and oversee mental health, education, and healthcare programs for some of the most vulnerable members of our society.

Now, I bring all of those experiences back home to the focused conversation of the consultation room. I look forward to meeting you there.

Specialities

Anxiety and Panic Attacks

Trauma and PTSD

Work Stress and Workplace Bullying

Medical Conditions

Social Relationship Challenges

Couples Counseling

LGBTQ+ Concerns

Grief and Loss

Life Coaching


What I Offer

Narrative Therapy

Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing (EMDR)

Brainspotting

Emotional Freedom Technique (Tapping)

Mindfulness

Ready to Take the First Step?